Monday, 29 April 2013

St Peters Hospice Midnight Walk 13th - 14th July


Hi Ladies,
Georgina and Karen would like you to join us on the Midnight Walk for St Peters Hospice in Caroline's memory.  The walk starts on the evening of July
Karen, Trudy and Caroline
13 going into July 14th, the Anniversary of Caroline's passing. If you do then Register by Tue 30 April for £12 or after this date it's £15.  The team name is "Caroline's Chicks" & team leader is Karen Dunford.  Request the T-Shirt & we will put a lovely picture of Caroline on it. We will also set up a just giving web page we can all share. Details to follow.

The registration page is

The Watson Meal Planner wc 29th April 2013

Wc 29th  April 2013
Happy Birthday Ciaran
Monday
Chicken chasseur and rice
Dad out
Tuesday
Pasta Bolognese 
Wednesday
Chilli con carne and rice
Dad out
Thursday
Fish cakes, chips, peas
Friday
Dominoes
Dad out
Saturday
Chicken, Rogan Josh
Sunday
Roast chicken dinner

Only 8 Weeks To Go! OMG!


I may have mentioned once or twice, I’m off to Australia for my dream holiday. We are now firmly into Spring and the worst of the Winter is hopefully behind us.  With the sun shining and the light evenings peoples’ spirits begins to lift and thoughts are turning to summer and well-earned holidays.  I’m no different but now beginning to realize that there’s so much to sort out before I can even step on the plane.
Now I thought I was quite good at sorting myself out for trips.  In my former job I was constantly travelling, so packing my overnight bag and getting to the airport was no problem.   However, when I take a bit longer to recall the reality my assistant, Val, made all the travel arrangements.  All I had to do was pack my bag and sit on a plane and you wouldn’t believe the number of times I messed that up!

When it came to family holidays well I had even less involvement.  Caroline would book the flight, holiday, pack the cases ensuring we were within the weight limit, book the taxi to the airport, sort the kids out etc.   Whenever I was asked to do anything I would respond with “Don’t worry!  We’ve got ages yet”
On reflection I have absolutely no idea what is involved.
Now lets face it, its only me going to Australia, the holiday is booked and all I got to do is to get to the airport.  Well that’s what I thought. 
First of all Georgina is going on holiday for a week three days after I leave.  No doubt there will some small panics that will need to be sorted but Georgina is fairly organized.  But then there is my lovely handsome boy, Joe.  Quite a different kettle of fish.   Whilst Georgina is away Joe will be on his own for that week.
Caroline and I were making plans to travel without the kids as they got older and more independent but he has gone through a lot over the past year I do feel overly protective towards Joe. When I look back to the time when I was 17 I feel that I was more grown up.  That’s not Joes fault. There is definitely a tendency nowadays to mollycoddle our kids.   Not sure when and why this trend happened but almost all of us parents have fallen into the trap.
My major fear is that he will be on his own for long periods when I am away.  Joe may have other ideas.  Joe tells me he can go around his mates’ houses and the “not girlfriend” Eve only lives up the road!  I have asked his aunty, Karen, to keep an eye on him.  His artful 12-year-old cousin Ciaran has told him “she [K.aren] will do his cooking and I will do your head in!” 
One of my worst nightmares may become a reality.  I can’t think anything much worse than going clothes shopping with Joe.  Walking around Topman enthusiastically saying “Joe this looks good, what do you think?”
The response is generally “nah” or “alright”!
I will be looking for volunteers to carryout this task.  In fairness to Joe he doesn’t rate me as the top shopper either.
I am disappointed to learn that whilst away Joe will have his school prom on July 4th marking the end of his school era.  In typical fashion Joe tells me “everyone’s not bothered” These kids have no sense of occasion!  So I need to dig a bit deeper to find out what’s happening by getting in tune with the mums jungle drums. 
The day after I return Joe is off to Malia with his mates.  Every time I mention Malia other parents pull a face as to say “Oh my god!  Have you seen the TV programme about Malia”?  I can only imagine.  I daren’t watch it.  At least I will be home by the time he leaves.   However, I will need to sort out the foreign currency before I disappear off for a couple of weeks.  When Georgina went inter-railing last year she used Travelex Cash Passport bought from Sainsburys.  Basically you load the card with money before leaving ready to use as a debit card in shops, bars and at ATMs whilst away.  A big advantage is that the card cannot be overdrawn and can be reloaded remotely if required.  Additionally the card is secure and there is 24/7 global assistance.  In fact the Cash Passport is the modern day travellers cheque.  Obviously, I will need to check the charges to ensure to find the best value.  http://www.moneysupermarket.com/travel-money/
There is so much to do and plan over the next 8 weeks before I’m off.  No doubt there will be more that I haven’t even thought of besides.  “Hey!  There’s ages to go yet!  NOT!  

Monday, 22 April 2013

The Watson Meal Planner wc 22nd April 2013


Wc 22nd  April 2013
Jaynie and Suzanne
Monday
Chicken fajitas 
Tuesday
Joe: Dominoes 
Dad away
Wednesday
Turkey drummers, pasta and peas
Dad late
Thursday
Fish Fingers, Chips and Beans
Dad late
Friday
Breaded fillet and new potatoes
Dad out
Saturday
TBA
Sunday
TBA

Charity Bide Ride Update

So far we have collected £540 for St Peters Hospice directly due to the donations received for our Cardiff to Bristol bike ride.  Come on lets get above £600
https://www.justgiving.com/Caroline-Watson-48


Moving On Up!


April 14th , my birthday, marked the 9 month anniversary of Caroline’s passing.  Caroline’s passing in many ways seems like only yesterday but at the same time so much has happened since.  During this period I have tried to keep my life  moving forward. However, the pain of my loss is still quite raw and there are days when I start stepping backwards or morning s where I’m wrestling with the duvet, as it feels as though there is nothing to get up for!
At least now I can remember beyond the final days of Caroline’s life.  I can remember the good times that we had.  I have tried to keep Caroline’s memory alive as it gives me and kids great comfort knowing that she is still with us.  I make no apology for this.  I am now starting to enjoy myself without feeling guilty for doing so although there is still that sense of injustice that Caroline has been taken away from us at her prime.  Its just so unfair.  I still miss her so much.
20th Wedding Anniversary in Dublin
I am determined though that I live as normal a life as possible.  I don’t know what that looks like and now reaching a point where I need to take the next steps.  Although living my life without Caroline will be hard I have take control of my own destiny and that of my children.    My life now is unrecognizable from where I was three years ago.
Just three years ago Caroline and I had sketched the next phase of our life together.  We had both worked really hard and raised our family.  The kids were now old enough to fend for themselves.  We had discussed what we would do and where we would go.  Initially we would just go out for a drink or a meal together but then as time rolled on we were dreaming of the holidays we would take.  I would free up time from my career by taking some timely step “backward” eventually becoming freelance.  The future together looked so exciting.  But before these plans had even got off the ground “BANG!”  You know the rest.
Now I find myself in many ways starting again.  I’m confused about which direction I will be travelling.  I’m absolutely terrified of where my personal life may turn up.  The sorts of considerations and options in front of me are not easy for a 49-year-old single man to contemplate.  What I do know is I don’t want to sit in my house feeling lonely and sorry for myself.  Most single people would say that loneliness is the worse.  Don’t get me wrong I got my kids, my family and friends who have been terrific. But they have their own lives and cannot be expected to be around all the time.  So I will take these issues into my own hands.  I need to carve my own pathway.  Trouble is I don’t have a map.
The most important step in any journey is the first step.  At the beginning I will only be dipping my toe into this new world.  Top of my list is to meet new people   Working freelance the past 6 months has brought me into contact with so many new and interesting people.  I have found the range of people and the diversity of business communities absolutely fascinating.  Its almost like working in “Middle Earth”.  Although I have not met the Hobbit yet! I have definitely made some  lasting business relationships.  Now I want to extend this networking experience to my social life and find some companionship.
Where do people of say 45 plus go?  Now I haven’t quite written myself off yet.  I still feel as I can walk into any bar without embarrassing myself.  Well not until I start doing my dad dancing!   But where do you to do something a bit more meaningful. 
I could join one of the many singles clubs that exist in Bristol. However, the mere mention of “single clubs” conjures up images of either Darby and Jones Club or swingers club or worse of all both!  Now to be clear I’m sure singles clubs on the whole are good fun and legitimate serving an important part in peoples lives.   Not sure I’m ready to throw myself wholly into such a club yet.
As I have said before in previous blogs there are activities I want to take up to learn new skills, which will bring me into contact with other people.  In fact one of my goals this year is to “learn to cook properly”.  I have also found a wine tasting course that looks good fun.  Not only does the session lasts from 10:30am to 4pm, I should be able to differentiate one wine from the other by its taste and not only by its colour, as I do now.  Sounds very appealing.  Wine Tasting.  I guess that there will be a range of activities and events that I will get involved in.  What the next steps are after these I have absolutely no idea.
There are going to be so many different twists and turns along this road its certainly going to be scary and adventurous.  I never ever wanted or thought I would be at this place but given that I am then lets make the most of it.  I’m sure Caroline will be smiling when she sees me at a “cookery course”!



  

Monday, 15 April 2013

The Watson Meal Planner wc 15th April 2013


Wc 15th  April 2013
Monday
Joe:  Out
Dad:  Mushroom soup
Tuesday

Paul & Karen: Smoked Haddock, New Potatoes, Peas
Georgina and Joe:  Breaded Cod, New Potatoes or Pasta, Peas   
Wednesday
Turkey drummers, pasta and peas
Dad late
Thursday
Chicken Thighs with an Orange Chipotle, Chilli & Thyme Marinade, Rice
Friday
Pasta bolognese
Saturday
Take Away
Sunday
TBA

April 14th: My Birthday


Wow!  What a weekend.  So much to tell, so many people to thank.  Today, the 14th April, is my birthday.  My first one since Caroline passed away.  The start of the week had been tough.  I miss her so much and not being able to be with her is unbearable.  As the week went on I gradually started to pull myself together.  In any case there was a charity bike ride to organize for the 13th and then the party on the evening.  Even before we had reached Saturday there had been a few scares to be dealt with.  For example the local newspapers either side of the border had announced that the Severn Bridge was closed over the weekend for maintenance.  If this was true the all ride was off.  Thankfully, this had proved to be a false alarm.  Just goes to show that the press cant even get that right.

The "intrepids" at the Sennedd, Cardiff Bay

The idea of a bike ride in memory of Caroline from Cardiff to Bristol seemed to be a great one at the time.  But there is always one essential ingredient for any enjoyable bike ride.  Good weather!  The weather forecast suggested we were going to get something quite different from the ideal.  The forecast was absolutely atrocious.
The Bristol entourage set off to Cardiff by car in good spirits determined not to let the forecast get us down.  “Bring it on”.  Anyway the weather was surprisingly good.  Had the forecasters got it wrong again?  The question was very quickly answered.  No!  As soon as we reached the Welsh capital the first drops started to fall from the sky.  We had to prepare ourselves.  First things first!  A fuel stop! Mimosa Kitchen and Bar on Cardiff Bay for an excellent breakfast.  We were now ready to take on the World!  The intrepid cyclists were now ready for the 50 mile endurance test.
It was great to see so many supporters and well wishers. The Bristol boys of Rich, Neil, Karl, Mark and I now joined by the Welsh contingent of Dave, “Rat” and “Sprinter” set off on their machines to Bristol.  At the back of my mind I was concerned that the weather conditions had increased the risk of an accident.  Even hyperthermia.  Karl had turned up as though it was the middle of the summer.   My main goal was to get everyone home safely.
Alas! Melenium Sq, Bristol
The ride itself quickly became a duel between man and his machine against the elements.  Throughout the journey the heavens just emptied with the wind against us.  It was certainly a grueling ride of endurance.  The memory of Caroline and the work of St Peters Hospice spurred us on.  There was no way we were not going to finish.  The crossing of the Severn Bridge was spectacular for those who weren’t too scared to look down.   En route we even picked up a couple “stragglers”, Georgina’s friends Lizzy and Georgie, on the Portway Bristol, who accompanied us on the last five miles home.
The one value that we all had agreed to stick with no matter what was “we left as a team and we finish as a team”.  This was absolutely key to maintaining morale and safety.   Nearly five hours after leaving Cardiff Bay we proudly rode into Mellenium Square greeted by our supporters with so many wearing their St Peters Hospice t-shirts. At last we had made it.  Caroline would have been proud of our achievement although I know she would have been giving me grief for doing it in the rain.
There was a real sense of relief. The weather definitely played a part in the time.  The main thing is there was only one minor incident on the trip, a puncture in Avonmouth.  We had arrived in Bristol safe and unscarred.  The weather conditions had added to the sense of achievement to the Team effort.  Now the bar was beckoning and there was no way we were going to resist. We did look slightly out of place in a central Bristol bar soaking wet, covered in mud, and wet through when everyone around us were dressed up ready for an evening out.  Despite this we still received around £50 of donations for our cause.  The final total still has to be counted but we will have raised between £300 and £400.  A magnificent effort and well worthwhile.  We had completed the main event, next the celebration.
Fair play to everyone.  The cyclists had all managed to warm our bones, brush themselves down and were now ready for an evening of jocularity joined by a load more family and friends.  What a night! 

The venue, Kobe Karaoke, was absolutely perfect for us and highly recommended.  I had booked a large Karaoke booth furnished with contemporary sofas, chairs, a dance floor and interactive Karaoke screens.  Brilliant!   It was fair to say that in most cases the singing left a bit to be desired.  Although Suzanne’s rendition of Adele’s “rolling in the deep” was excellent.  My highlight of the evening was the old Sisters Sledge song “we are family”.  It just summed up the day and the past year.  It was so great to see so many friends and family together enjoying themselves. Without any doubt there will be a lot of people nursing sore heads and having a quiet day on the sofa.  This includes me.
Thanks to everyone for making my birthday so special in difficult circumstances.  If you can please donate to http://www.justgiving.com/Caroline-Watson-48.